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What love has to do with it: An attachment perspective on pair bonding and sexual behavior

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  12 February 2009

Vivian Zayas  and
Daphna Ram
Vivian Zayas
Affiliation:
Department of Psychology, Cornell University, Ithaca, NY 14853-7601vz29@cornell.eduhttp://people.psych.cornell.edu/~pac_lab/
Daphna Ram
Affiliation:
Department of Human Development, Cornell University, Ithaca, NY 14853-7601. dr239@cornell.eduhttp://people.psych.cornell.edu/~pac_lab/
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Abstract

Del Giudice proposes that short-term mating strategies are adaptive for attachment-avoidant men. We argue that this model (1) does not apply to the majority of avoidant men (fearful-avoidants); (2) is based on limited evidence that the remaining subset of avoidant men (dismissing-avoidants) engage in short-term mating strategies; and (3) disregards the importance of pair bonding even for dismissing-avoidants.

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Open Peer Commentary
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Behavioral and Brain Sciences , Volume 32 , Issue 1 , February 2009 , pp. 44 - 45
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Copyright © Cambridge University Press 2009

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