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Matrimonial Bonds: Slavery and Divorce in Nineteenth-Century America

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As early as 1848, in the first public meeting on woman's rights, feminists raised the touchy issues of women's marital subjugation and divorce. They complained that the laws of marriage and divorce were framed for the benefit of men and to entrap women within the oppressive institution of marriage. Another controversial claim made at Seneca Falls—that to the ballot—went on to become the great organizing principle for women's campaigns for legal and political reform. But despite the bold beginning, divorce remained a complex and divisive issue for feminists throughout the century. Although legislatures in most states in the mid-nineteenth century were systematically liberalizing divorce laws, they could not lift the social stigma attached to it. Fearful of being branded as anti-marriage or anti-family, or believing in the permanency of marriage, many feminists spoke of divorce reluctantly, and never used their formidable organizing skills to launch a full-scale assault on laws restricting the dissolution of marriage.

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6. Lily 4, no. 10 (August 1852): 69.

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31. This is the first documented instance of the adage, “publish or perish.”

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51. Ibid. 5, no. 6 (February 10, 1870): 94.

52. Stanton, in an article entitled “Free Trade,” denied that since Train dissociated himself from the Revolution it had gone over to “Greeley and the Protectionists.” “Commerce is ever the pioneer of civilization and Christianity, and every barrier in the way of exports and imports blocks the wheels of progress and retards the moral and intellectual development of all the races of man.” Ibid. 3, no. 15 (April 15, 1869): 233.

53. Revolution, part 1, vol. 3, no. 18 (May 8, 1869): 275Google Scholar; Ibid., part 2, vol. 3, no. 20 (May 20, 1869): 310; Ibid., part 3, vol. 3, no. 25 (June 24, 1869): 386; Ibid., part 4, vol. 4, no. 1 (July 8, 1869): 3.

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59. Greeley, “Marriage and Divorce,” 585.

60. Ibid., 577.

61. Stanton, , Anthony, , and Gage, , History of Woman Suffrage 1:717–18Google Scholar.

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72. In this sense, Stanton's family design looked very much like the privatized family Christopher Lasch describes in Haven in a Heartless World: The Family Besieged (New York, 1977)Google Scholar.

73. DuBois suggests this in “On Labor and Free Love.”

74. Revolution 5, no. 10 (March 10, 1870): 147Google Scholar.

75. Letter from Stanton to Susan B. Anthony, Nov. 24, 1856, Stanton papers, Douglass College Library, Rutgers University.

76. Matilda Joslyn Gage, one of Stanton's strongest allies, restated this position at the NWSA convention in 1876, saying “without control of one's person, the opportunities of the world, which are the only means of development, cannot be used.” Quoted in Leach, , True Love, 81Google Scholar.

77. Stanton, , Anthony, , Gage, , History of Woman Suffrage 2:19Google Scholar. Theodore Dwight Woolsey, foe of divorce, parodied these connection as “free rum, free Sundays, free suffrage, and free divorce.” Woman's Journal, Nov. 26, 1870, p. 372.

78. Stanton, “Free Love,” 268.

79. Horace Greeley, “Love, Marriage, and Divorce,” in Shively, Love, Marriage, and Divorce, 36. Greeley's main concern was the protection of the working classes rather than the emancipation of the spirit: perceiving free trade as the enemy of the workingman, Greeley opposed it.

80. Ibid., 43.

81. Ibid., 9.

82. Greeley, “Love, Marriage, and the Condition of Woman,” in Shively, Love, Marriage, and Divorce.

83. Greeley, “Love, Marriage, and Divorce,” 22.

84. Ibid., 78. Smithfield is the site in London where religious martyrs were burned at the stake.

85. See Leach on Stanton in True Love.

86. See Alice Rossi, The Feminist Papers.

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90. Stanton, , Anthony, , and Gage, , History of Woman Suffrage 2:169Google Scholar.

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