Psychotherapy with the terminally ill poses special challenges for
clinicians and in return offers unique rewards. As a time limited therapy,
acceptance, rather than change is a primary goal; yet, patients can be
strongly motivated to change. Patients may need to struggle with how to
disengage while also maintaining connection. Unique transference and
countertransference issues arise. The psychological tasks of dying include
grieving, saying goodbye, constructing a meaningful context to one's
life, and letting go. The therapist can serve as a companion and guide to
the dying person as she or he negotiates these tasks. Through the use of a
case example, these issues are explored from the perspectives of patient
and therapist. The therapist must address the following issues: attending
to physical suffering, differentiating between grieving and depression,
addressing fears, facilitating the life review, and assisting in decision
making. A dying patient's need to leave a legacy, complete
relationships, grapple with spiritual and religious issues, and attend to
his or her family, are often important themes. Therapists must work
productively with denial, maintain flexible yet appropriate boundaries,
grapple with their own anxiety about death, and grieve the loss of their
patients. Psychotherapy with dying patients can help reduce their
psychological pain, relieving psychosocial distress and providing
opportunities for personal growth in the last stage of life. Such work is
often draining yet immensely rewarding for the patient and therapist
alike.